etiquette or sexism?
the sudden question inevitably came into my mind after two consectutive days of the somewhat 'etiquette' experience.. in the last lessons of bba finishing school today, a highly interesting course was conducted known as 'social etiquette'.. well, contrary to what many may think, these are not general knowledge to most, especially when dining, formalities and the 'gentlemen' way to do things are involved..somehow, these practices seem to be lost in today's world.. not to accuse the guys from taking the shortcuts in courting a girl, or being just plain lazy in attempting to be gentlemen.. perhaps life has become so much more casual for such actions to be practiced.. or even.. ladies are of independent nature who are strong and career minded to see no need for a guy to open the car door for them, or to pull a chair out in dining, or to place orders for her.. i can't help but wonder.. could the actions of a gentlemen ever be seen as weird, or worse, an act of sexism?
if females wish for the respect, opportunities, independence and equality on par with men, does that mean that they then cannot expect the efforts of a gentlemen from a guy anymore? hmmm.. i remember encountering this question once.. i pondered.. and then i concluded tt since girls are becoming as such, they would not be bothered if these actions are being practiced or not.. because they do not expect to be treated as a gender type which is less strong in nature.. or perhaps to be treated in that way is a type of gender discrimination.. yet my thots changed after 3 years.. i was posed this same question today.. and i decided otherwise.. even of my personality which many might interpret as career minded and ambitious, i definitely expect those practices from a guy.. and totally appreciate it as a basic respect of a gentlemen to a lady..
so much is said.. yet sometimes the practise of such formalities brings abt a certain degree of awkwardness.. would you expect that from a guy fren? a potential date? a bf? a small polling exercise amongst my guy frens revealed that so long as it is a one-on-one in a restaurant of sufficient atmosphere, they would do the gentlemen acts.. haha maybe i am around very many gentlemen eh.. but then again i ask myself.. would i expect that from my guy fren? perhaps the simpler acts of holding the door, taking ur stuff for u.. but the full version definitely will shock me.. will i learn to accept it graciously? or will i continue to convince the casualness of today's society? haha i really don't noe.. only time will tell i guess.. :)
rebec inspired @ 6:54 PM
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